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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 # |: x* e# q! l: ^: a, _! i
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气2 y1 N- \3 \7 t2 b4 [
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...0 T4 A) B- V0 q& Q' s
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
; D( B: }3 h! b h( v) `8 X我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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' T& w. r8 {; o0 f我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。$ O% k) c% U/ ?8 J4 g% `( |
" |0 r" u- `6 R2 ~0 L0 b对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids: 2 i4 {0 M3 J) A! ~$ q4 G
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. 2 a8 s9 u- g9 l; c' a0 J
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
* Y- U4 J: O+ i0 Y& ? They are overindulged by too many presents.
) H v( N7 a p" e+ Q5 pThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 2 |% n& ~0 s: W2 J6 |6 t' V
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
2 S( W/ ~1 e3 d$ o- o: o# k8 y They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.# `3 s1 X* n$ g# R7 W$ D
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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For Parents: 0 g1 D/ ?" P1 `1 _0 n8 P( h
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
8 s6 H" B+ m. _* A- RThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. 3 j6 r) E9 X5 X+ y0 r
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
% F/ [5 _: A5 SThey feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
& x' X0 B7 a- M; jThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.2 i& P5 T+ h5 O# N4 g9 z
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”5 o9 D* @! O/ s2 Q& f
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.5 h3 Q9 l" p" d6 l. m8 x* R+ ?% r
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:, j3 r: a' L. g
A too much stuff culture
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An entitlement culture ^$ i6 F: x* K) _/ H$ t6 {; x) \0 P3 U
A envy culture
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...9 ^: Y9 T' B! v. L/ X" Y V
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10