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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 : j7 Y% q+ i: k3 g4 q8 k( I) g5 [ `
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气* [4 t; @" k; b o. g _; x# k+ l
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sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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' U# l6 G) P! m6 ?我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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$ _2 g+ G3 ]) g. o- ^6 `对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids:
. B# r7 H$ }$ qNot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. . Q9 i) o; V3 }& H$ T, j9 W
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
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They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
0 T% K3 |9 V5 H5 c) ?& r6 S4 rThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
; u+ m" {" G3 ~. z They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.6 W1 F3 x4 t8 \8 y) i% y) G' F7 D
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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For Parents:
4 {- D4 J, q, K/ v: a0 @Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.$ s8 G" E8 ^& C9 H6 x; J% [- t, q
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
" H7 Q: ~% L# L9 EThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. 5 b5 e) F8 a4 V3 z7 V
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
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They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
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They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.: ^9 Q F2 B& J" y S
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For the Community and Culture:
& f) j5 h& T( e5 g/ q0 ]This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A envy culture
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10