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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 7 A S5 @" y: F( q+ j
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气+ a* ~: ^& i; a1 V/ [& r3 L7 R7 a8 b
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sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？4 L# X( I5 Y6 D) [7 `" g$ z
8 q0 F) G& g4 X. Z g我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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/ Y% i3 ]. B: W另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。1 o1 g; A5 F2 z! @* T9 ?
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举* B! K7 Y; r5 d& I" \
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For Kids: 9 Z' Q7 z6 t- w6 Z
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
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They are overindulged by too many presents.
! \2 T F) B( {. UThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
# T; Y8 D3 \- f+ ?They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
: d( A9 j7 V: X They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
# W& u( l# d2 c) N: n! b* ?& @ Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.) U! ?+ H. M9 N a: ?, M, [: \
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Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.5 r8 Y0 \- D% h5 z4 j7 a8 f
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
8 P& R6 ^. \* U' }' G# ?8 ?They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. " W6 |" c4 ?& a1 R3 E; m
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.6 q6 t s# |) H! Y2 O1 y
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.+ V2 O& G4 A* V" Z9 |6 Z
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
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They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:* r& l A/ t4 a, S
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A me first culture
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An entitlement culture
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A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10