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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 7 F: \3 C) m+ z. n) L
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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$ w* I/ s+ E3 f L娃是很知道party的special的， ...
6 d0 Q' c9 D. J# zsweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？. ~7 m: t5 _/ _ {3 R3 L" \
4 x/ j. M* ]8 j3 l) c我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举0 s4 g1 y# w0 K1 t
5 H% ^$ I3 T. e5 F4 @! nFor Kids: 9 R( Z0 g8 t7 U: z
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. + m0 e! F; j2 ]3 s& b3 x6 p
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.& D7 j0 w4 |* P$ N& ^1 H
They are overindulged by too many presents.
" [4 Q& ]* x) F# J" |* C$ H4 A2 PThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
+ ]& t) i& x. U( G) r- x5 t. X4 `They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
/ n0 |3 N( }7 O: f They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.3 E; `5 o$ m7 Z/ b# g( d" d7 O
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.+ \$ |4 P9 x k
3 _; K- b- B$ Q% xFor Parents:
* J. ~( }! A3 p0 W( ~Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
5 w) Z' T3 q- B% F$ W$ ~They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. ( H. ]. x6 l; |4 q6 S5 w2 K5 g3 t1 p
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
. G& I! _. P5 y" E. Z8 aThey feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
8 F1 \5 A- Q4 sThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.3 ?% k* B% L N- ?; q" L7 }
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”9 W' Y- V z9 v3 h- |
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.
! I( ~, {2 s/ ?4 M' g# PThey experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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# n, |2 C% j: |/ v+ uFor the Community and Culture:
% y6 C" Z: `+ _1 x% K$ VThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
1 j' C4 ]# s" j* MA too much stuff culture + W) M8 ^, P( R# q' R) x6 R
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An entitlement culture
5 g! n& z. [" ] S2 y" j; ]A envy culture
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...% c$ }- K& s" y* Y* V
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10