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0 G v. ?, M; y) j幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气" p3 u, X- }, g1 u1 C5 J# [
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...
7 ]2 m% B$ p. L7 f9 Nsweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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C- r; ^' _3 c) p我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？8 }# U, T/ C. _9 I0 z
3 B$ m. Q+ J6 C$ \" o我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。3 u* x( _' D/ u* w; w) v
& D H- v% @$ N( e对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids:
! }+ i, w6 y, g. {( p) ?8 v( `& sNot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. , k( a- @, m0 Q/ P
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.; K4 V7 }9 }- F" b0 C
They are overindulged by too many presents.
7 E& p) h% y# Z& H. Z' N4 ~) QThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 2 ~8 C3 w% c( c* ]
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.7 T; `9 h/ L8 m- U
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.1 x( X6 J1 v- }
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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For Parents: 0 @( L% h. c6 M1 J& G8 ~( S* N
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
8 a8 e% u8 b, z* [They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. . {7 P- L) U2 D" @9 c
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. , O2 @& }2 f3 M& Q
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
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, Z. C; _1 q' QThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
) F0 |4 i) A* Y& }1 kThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.. W, ?+ j5 C1 P1 j, X1 ~- j3 p% T% u
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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For the Community and Culture:
9 B2 l* X. E; O4 v9 l) KThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
2 G3 z ?' E" QA too much stuff culture
$ c& V" L6 ^- ]- uA me first culture
( w9 ]& L& f$ `$ G. eA trash and waste culture
9 v+ q+ q2 H$ G3 L, Y/ ~5 OAn entitlement culture
) ~% H1 x, v. ~ ?" `( ?; JA envy culture
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10