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: C& X# \6 S6 e6 z8 [幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气/ @4 y6 w) H1 X" R
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...
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! b9 K+ u3 q4 |' v/ k1 Y! h" }我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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7 H7 G, D, y# J# u+ [3 a. P我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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% K0 x1 c: q2 Q4 G6 t对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids: 9 U B) U9 ?/ a/ A- p; ~3 E# S9 k G
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. 6 s, e, L% O& g) q2 U
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.8 _9 O: n( `/ r- E
They are overindulged by too many presents. ( ~+ M5 P$ g V) \! v. `
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 6 U! z0 E6 q7 m/ w
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.3 u0 u7 C2 `3 T! ?
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
0 m$ q0 C/ e* s; w5 q; w6 o! ?' w Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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7 p$ k! a" I" {+ Q: k. E" I9 nFor Parents:
1 Y: R$ y% D+ ~+ Y+ Q) aSome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.5 @' b" O6 p, [' R" _
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. + i" c# h6 l5 \2 z9 C
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. * M# z' I0 e. {# l
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
* |# k9 W0 `9 I) z4 xThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
; {3 `) |( a" V l3 x% IThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”! [6 [% h/ {8 p1 O
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.
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/ u6 I, K% v4 VFor the Community and Culture:
, x5 `* {7 V0 H; m) H* L5 lThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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4 r0 P3 t6 V( J9 Q+ f0 `! UAn entitlement culture
9 i* ^# Z9 l- K1 ^+ wA envy culture
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...1 u0 b' U2 r: L; i5 Q# b8 ?
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10