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Originally posted by shuishijie at 2005-6-24 12:15 PM:
. a4 e' F, b6 h( P2 X: ui sense a little tension here
1 c* o, i3 I7 d1 {" K/ Zsorry, i didn't mean you by 'you' which is a general reference.. c0 Q. j7 u9 r3 `4 [
back to our discussion, you are absolutely right.
" J* G$ |, r; X: Fif she/he 有那金刚钻, ie. intelligence and self-control, then she/he 就能揽这瓷器活儿.
# l) }6 }4 U3 N- nFurthermore, if she/he cheated and is able to hide it for the rest of her/his life, then she/he has to bear with the guilty for the rest of her/his life.
9 |1 x, m$ z; V8 \7 oIf both cheated and can face it very well, then both of them will be worried if the other will cheat again.
9 I6 Y% _4 r. N( D% N' I. k1 j) H: c GIf both are not worried about the other cheating, then is this a marriage you want?7 \ j0 m! [7 u5 q
Not mean you here
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, d4 d: }$ T N! p* E没有没有,没有任何敌意, 随便聊天。
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2 T8 H1 u9 [( [) n3 ^9 X; l; |其实我只是说一种可能性,并没有道德评价,或者人身安插。2 u4 S/ z6 b4 v( b4 c# B$ y, L6 M
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你后面的三种情形,不同的人,不同的情商,不同的原则,处理情况也不同,有的一样可以花好月圆,有的则是一团乱麻。所以我说的“金刚钻“的比喻,是说没有大家都搞定的本事(搞定情人老婆劳工和自己),就别冒险。 v$ c2 ?: e! j& V6 P& g
) a; B+ _/ I5 p! b* ?. z比如前几天看到杂志里谈到“处理婚外恋“说得好,向你的伴侣坦白之前,先想一想,如果你只是想摆脱guilty感觉,那么向伴侣坦白,等于把自己的负担转移给你的伴侣而已,对你的婚姻毫无好处,那么不如跟心理医生讲述。除非这次婚外行为有性疾病的可能,你需要带你的伴侣去就医。所以还是说呢, if you can not take the heat, get out of the kitchen.
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. `/ ^% J$ h2 b/ L我本人对夫妻远距离生存,各找临时情人,是持理解通融的态度的。我并不羡慕那些多年分离还守身如玉的夫妻。当然我也崇尚夫妻的忠诚,所以我更希望的是常相厮守。 |
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