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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.) ~6 A( t! X7 z. {, l9 @; O2 f1 J$ ^
* }/ Y( ?: N. ~7 @) n% S; B" OSo here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.9 _* V% F# ` C
6 e+ o* O6 ~9 N" u( m) xEvery morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:/ x* O, B {. b- }
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
) ^' B, ^- \+ ]. c1 L# S, o Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
4 {& r" ^8 F( M# b& b) z" T% R I am fine, thanks! (You)
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6 Q4 `7 L: Q8 k) e4 r. [) A' FDay 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
! ?$ v/ {8 ^# V' t Repeat Day 1 (Co-worker)9 E! X8 i8 L* k1 A
I am fine, and how are you. (You): I% x9 E- a+ Z) r6 c+ F; B
Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)/ Q6 [6 R6 A5 |! ]( B
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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1 R+ s/ J: i: d7 wDay 3: Repeat5 k" b1 \& a& M8 M
Repeat
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; f, _. X5 j( A! s, Y I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
! b+ G2 E+ b4 x) {; A Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
) V8 L( M/ i u! J0 N: L' D Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
0 s# z2 r! g8 n, D3 ^# S Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)% I. v7 T2 a) T z L3 {
5 y) F& y: `7 r. `% L4 e; O5 Q! ~Next Monday: Repeat
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How was your weekend? (You)
. v: i% e" A w- S% g4 m0 H Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
6 g3 Z6 ^6 X2 V- F, [ Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
, v' S- p: ?5 f0 \9 B# k% ?& j Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)3 r$ X* ^9 d5 E2 @, }/ \
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
( d ^! S% {0 Z8 D1 U1 e Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
0 e$ I4 A p2 O4 @2 H Great idea and I will
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9 M0 a# x0 Y. a( L% t. o# m7 r+ a7 X Then you see the boss walking by2 W. Y8 z# Y2 b v& K+ f
It is time to stop.
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5 u5 P7 N4 T, VThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
0 k$ X* P! @0 P' j7 LAnd I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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