Cold War

Matrix

I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.

% @, [6 F4 b, LSo here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:

Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
) {. e- B3 ]7 @# H( o. R5 l2 l6 b            Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
/ V3 @1 V8 a! Y) K8 P' B- v8 k' D            I am fine, thanks!       (You)

' w, Q' n' u) S$ F7 eDay 2: Repeat  Day 1 (You)
            Repeat  Day 1 (Co-worker)
" X: L0 {9 N; Q0 D: U: ^            I am fine, and how are you. (You)
            Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
            Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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Day 3: Repeat
  }* g4 A6 r( q. c; a1 F            Repeat
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: c/ }; i6 `" Y, v- ]/ T            I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
1 [  Z: I$ J2 B- E/ ?) `            Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
            Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
           Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)

Next Monday: Repeat
                        Repeat
                        How was your weekend? (You)
4 g% O" Q. I) P2 F4 g) Q                        Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
                        Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
                        Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
                        Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
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7 ~. I( s  p- A! W% s7 U& A  P: N" y                        Great idea and I will
! g; m6 B& O6 R! f                        Bla—Bla—Bla
                        Then you see the boss walking by
6 C6 h6 N+ z' P1 R# o                         It is time to stop.
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category.  The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.

4 ^8 _# L, \- T' ]7 x[ 本帖最后由 Matrix 于 2008-8-27 23:47 编辑 ]

billzhao

Excellent! and some flowers for you to show my great appreciation.