<转帖>孩子是因你而来,不是为你而来

秀色可餐

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今天偶然看到这首纪伯伦的诗，觉得很好，贴出来和大家一起分享
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On Children
Kahlil Gibran
% F. B. T, y) U! R. _1 n+ y+ IYour children are not your children.
. B) S; S3 B5 K" J- u! oThey are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
/ E5 j7 b! ]# k1 j- t' ?* gAnd though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
7 t+ M9 D/ l7 H' m/ mYou may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
% V( m7 w, F$ {3 M% T  L% M* pFor their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
' R0 A, O- |; A1 Mwhich you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
6 m+ Z; k+ b1 n4 k6 Q7 VYou may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
! [+ n9 O9 ^; H: fYou are the bows from which your children
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4 [) H' `1 r; v8 N7 C# X* KThe archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
7 G+ A; X' ?( mand He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
7 @) M% L  J) Y) R! O6 y* t! }so He loves also the bow that is stable.

秀色可餐

下面是中文翻译，可能不是很贴切。当你真正体会到其中的涵义时，便会发现其中“爱”、“放手”、“分清责任”、“信任”、“尊重”、“正向信念”这些家庭教育的真谛都包含其中。

你的子女，其实不是你的子女。
他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
/ ?3 ^' ~2 e% Z& k* U5 _8 w他们借助你来到这世界，却非因你而来。
+ Y9 }8 M6 a$ v9 V. d他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的思想，
( }3 d0 A9 w$ C7 }, _/ N因为他们有自己的思想。
你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦都无法到达的明天，
( i2 E6 t& N3 F" s4 l你可以拚尽全力，变得像他们一样，
9 C1 X$ J" a. @# I% W' t却不要让他们变得和你一样，
, E2 y  G4 J% Y3 n6 K* B# _" Z9 w因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
. e2 b4 K9 R2 G你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭。
弓箭手望着未来之路上的箭靶，
它用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
/ n. z' j+ d6 y0 }) {, P* {怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
# D9 Q) D. l  l% ?: E因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。

马桶上的思想家

太美了，而且句句精辟深刻！

钱小妹

体会体会，非常有理

Rainbowjj

真是好文，谢谢分享！！！