Cold War

Matrix

I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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' A' a" X8 m- t; ?, ~3 l+ o( n- M6 _So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.

Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:

Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
) Z$ o/ h! V/ l) q$ ^0 c- r            Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
            I am fine, thanks!       (You)

$ [! y: I$ o1 [% o2 F4 X9 n+ cDay 2: Repeat  Day 1 (You)
            Repeat  Day 1 (Co-worker)
7 Q7 Z- K. Y& N5 e8 c  A            I am fine, and how are you. (You)
8 q! y+ l/ m' b) H  h0 k            Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
  d: k  r0 h* z6 @8 j* K            Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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Day 3: Repeat
0 [3 {. G0 O3 S7 R; f: ]            Repeat
            Repeat
            I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
' A1 F- x/ J1 H$ O4 F3 e0 p) m# c            Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
* L& G3 q( n/ H; Q# B/ @            Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
           Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)
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* t( s. a; ]9 o4 HNext Monday: Repeat
# n( ^* \! D# c; O% n$ j1 ?' r+ q                        Repeat
                        How was your weekend? (You)
' H4 c  i3 c# v8 X                        Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
                        Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
3 ?3 q, N" a* G  N                        Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
                        Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
                        Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
                        Great idea and I will
                        Bla—Bla—Bla
0 k- Z$ P+ _" t! ?; B; N                        Then you see the boss walking by
                         It is time to stop.
                     

3 B- ^$ {/ f! a2 N- l4 aThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category.  The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
$ N) _, J) w# g3 AAnd I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.

[ 本帖最后由 Matrix 于 2008-8-27 23:47 编辑 ]

billzhao

Excellent! and some flowers for you to show my great appreciation.