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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.. T. [/ a& [; m; K
8 M! l; F- ?/ E8 g# ySo here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.- u9 s* X# O$ w6 F1 _1 S. }
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:% G9 I, _, A% A; H, x9 o' v/ c% c* b
! D/ e8 u h Q2 d0 d0 pDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
* C: o# F) N* m( U( f" J! l/ A Q Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
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1 ]( [+ c7 o. u/ l8 |" ^Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
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Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)( s8 j8 K! p& C: `3 j s; V
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)% _, [$ {& ~) F& i9 W# }
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Day 3: Repeat7 d7 M' ~9 e) s5 u( R. r8 k0 N: D
Repeat
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I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
5 ]7 p$ h2 w* r Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)- H- X! L" {9 l1 O: Y
Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)" Q$ W8 {* {2 r- f- P7 U
Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)
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How was your weekend? (You)
9 g% V, p" g2 ] Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker), e* ]* Q6 w9 l y
Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)3 O, _' r' \! p
Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker); [! P' S# q% ~) }& t
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
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Great idea and I will
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Then you see the boss walking by
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.4 |/ H' a& v0 i$ r# U, x7 \
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.* }) ?( ~8 Q, }& v
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