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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.) r* D; o$ }9 F O
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:# j& b! t. z1 ^ r" Q2 K1 I6 i9 g
' O E- _/ }9 N: wDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
& a' H9 _2 Q8 x9 s! c( s% T Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
8 P* [4 ^3 `' u0 c I am fine, thanks! (You)/ s: {1 F/ d) y, F3 M2 D: B0 Z
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Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
; d; ~ ^* N+ R1 }6 n. y Repeat Day 1 (Co-worker)
$ C" j' c5 G5 O& L8 }7 Y3 | I am fine, and how are you. (You)
5 C2 \* I6 |/ p) c* z& Y; M4 [! Z Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)% g" }) A6 P1 \, Y& ]4 t
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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& S" P( V5 w7 h0 U4 eDay 3: Repeat& ?( Z# t+ B' E. O) B
Repeat
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I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)5 s, @( K$ I* Q y, C/ {% e6 \
Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You): J( G! ?) w4 l& M) G
Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)2 Q" T* Z z! D
Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You), j6 m# z& U2 P
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Next Monday: Repeat2 p: u1 c* C F e" _6 B( ]
Repeat
; ~$ o. `! D. K; _0 O y& [ How was your weekend? (You)
: E0 d+ L: Y; d" s# f Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
( X' l: ~! Z4 x) p. E2 ~+ I' \ Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You); i. z8 |9 o* X7 a4 S$ @! J; T
Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)" u5 a: P% s2 N7 o7 O! H3 D5 r
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
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Great idea and I will6 T4 [& V/ c F# Q) O) W& Y% u6 Z
Bla—Bla—Bla
( P9 G$ [6 [: F/ e- u+ C5 }! i Then you see the boss walking by
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.2 g, N8 @6 Y. I6 n# D
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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