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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.: y+ @( V5 ~4 p& a3 \
& P, G$ e% E& i7 C- SSo here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.# c; U. A! }- W H
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:* Z7 K) S6 f2 }/ k
! }5 y6 f6 W/ `7 O4 y! A2 GDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)$ e4 e) a# A/ V6 |; l, {2 B. t6 G
Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)3 p" ?/ [/ F0 R# j$ I: n. j) S7 R
I am fine, thanks! (You)6 p( n9 }( O: s, u5 m
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Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
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I am fine, and how are you. (You)) f. z* W! ?4 }. ?6 F
Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)* l$ F1 W4 Q3 }! z1 P& j8 J2 s2 \
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)3 R4 M' F# Y- J
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Day 3: Repeat
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I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)8 U/ u! g) H0 a: a R* X
Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
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Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)& n: f" f: C6 ]
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Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
' b7 p* N9 `* d3 K$ \0 I7 k1 Z Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
% E$ I0 J5 G5 S! Y& k7 Z Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
& p7 m0 z6 _ O0 _ Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.4 N) ^2 p0 T# j
Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.' b. g8 Y4 T, V: Y9 E
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Then you see the boss walking by, y% H9 x# O- p
It is time to stop.
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.- ]6 D& y6 b9 N& L" ?! R! b
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.& v8 I# b4 y# z. e0 Z2 b9 ~1 j
8 Y3 C9 x D3 L5 Q1 d& h[ 本帖最后由 Matrix 于 2008-8-27 23:47 编辑 ] |
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